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The Sandpaper of the Mind - Part 7
Scrolling to Senility… or… Why the Digital Mind is Dying Young Imagine giving your grandfather a jigsaw puzzle, but you switch out a few...
Ben Corley
Oct 143 min read
The Sandpaper of the Mind - Part 6
The Algorithm is Not Your Pastor: Why Truth Requires Flesh and Bone There’s no shortage of truth-sounding content online (clips, quotes,...
Ben Corley
Oct 72 min read
The Sandpaper of the Mind - Part 5
Digital Bread and Circuses: How Comfort Made Us Cowards In ancient Rome, the people traded their birthright for entertainment. The...
Ben Corley
Sep 304 min read
The Sandpaper of the Mind - Part 4
The myth of the self-made man has been with us for centuries. There’s something intoxicating about it; the rugged loner, bootstrapped and...
Ben Corley
Sep 232 min read
The Sandpaper of the Mind - Part 3
The Filter Bubble and the Death of Sandlot Wisdom There was a time when a boy learned to be a man not in a classroom, but in the gravel...
Ben Corley
Sep 163 min read
The Completed Man: Counseling, Violence, and Peace
Introduction There is a concern among many men, and more conservative-leaning women, about the practices of clinical counseling and...
Ben Corley
Sep 97 min read
The Sandpaper of the Mind - Part 2
Echoes in a Cursed Hallway: Why We Prefer Our Own Voice Imagine you step into a locker room after a big win with the rest of your team....
Ben Corley
Sep 93 min read
The Sandpaper of the Mind - Part 1
Microagreements and the Erosion of Conviction In woodworking, there comes a time in every project when you move from rough cuts to...
Ben Corley
Sep 24 min read
Epigenetics and Generational Sin: Grandpappy’s Whiskey Problem and You
Our predecessors. Some make us proud, some make us cringe. One grandfather was a WW2 Ace, my father wore socks with his sandals. I'm not...
Ben Corley
Aug 295 min read
From Boy to Man: Why Risk is the Path to Masculine Maturity - Conclusion
The Crossroads of Covenant: Risk as Rite of Passage Every man will face a moment… and then over his lifetime, a thousand moments… where...
Ben Corley
Aug 264 min read
From Boy to Man: Why Risk is the Path to Masculine Maturity - Part 5
Suffering Is the School of Sons: Why the Pain of Uncertainty is God's Tool to Make You a Man There’s a reason barbells don’t come with...
Ben Corley
Aug 193 min read
Contending for the Faith: A Combat Manual for Christian Men
The Christian Life Is Not a Coffeehouse The fists get wrapped. The shoes get laced. The fighter makes the way to cage or ring. After...
Ben Corley
Aug 176 min read
From Boy to Man: Why Risk is the Path to Masculine Maturity - Part 4 - False Freedom and the Flight from Covenant
Why Boys Run from Vows and Men Make Them Freedom is one of the most misused words in modern masculine lexicon. Every boy wants it. Every...
Ben Corley
Aug 123 min read
The Rightful Death of “I’m Sorry”
Once upon a time, or so the story goes, an apology could silence a room, not because the words were magical, but because they cost the...
Ben Corley
Aug 98 min read
From Boy to Man: Why Risk is the Path to Masculine Maturity - Part 3 -The Risk-Averse Soul
Why Safety Is the Enemy of Manhood Imagine a man who never wrecks his truck, never strikes out at the plate, never splits a board on the...
Ben Corley
Aug 54 min read
From Boy to Man: Why Risk is the Path to Masculine Maturity - Part 1
Introduction We live in a world where everything is engineered to reduce risk: insurance, algorithms, padded playgrounds, curated dating...
Ben Corley
Jul 292 min read
From Boy to Man: Why Risk is the Path to Masculine Maturity - Part 2
The Eternal Boy and the Idolatry of Potential There is a peculiar creature walking among us. He’s charming, creative, full of promise....
Ben Corley
Jul 226 min read
When the Gatekeepers Change: How Mid-Level Staff and HR Can Hijack a Church’s Mission, Theology, and Culture, and Values
In the great halls of church history, we remember the names of theologians, reformers, pastors, and martyrs. We ‘take up and read’ as...
Ben Corley
Jul 1711 min read
What Men Want
Introduction: He won't say it; you don't know it. Ask most men what they want in a relationship, and they’ll give a casual shrug in...
Ben Corley
Jun 289 min read


Be the Man: Men's Christian Counseling in a Fragile Age
LEather Boxing Gloves hanging from an Iron Hook “Stop debating what a good man is. Be one.” — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations “It is not the...
Ben Corley
Jun 268 min read
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